Comments on: Break-ups and heartbreak

By: Francine

Francine — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 10:07:08 +0000

I was with my ex 2 1/2 years. He told me he loved me, told me he wanted to marry me. I met him thru a friend a few months after a 15 year marriage that was really bad. I thought I was safe. He filled my head with all the things someone would want to hear after being treated wrong for years. He said he would never harm me in the same way. Anyways I took him into my home, my family helped us relocate to another state. We got on our feet got an apartment. He finally started working and turned into a monster. Ended up throwing me and my 16 year old son out on Thanksgiving and threw our things out into the front yard on my birthday a week later. After a month I am hearing about all the woman he is with all the partying that he is doing in the apartment we got together and just so much more I now know he was cheating on me on-line the entire relationship using a false name and age and basically lying to every woman he is talking to. I am starting counseling and even though I know the whole relationship was a game to him I was not playing a truly loved him and the hurt lies with he only used me to get ahead. i am trying to be logical and realize that he is not worth the pain I am still feeling even knowing the truth about him but it still hurts deeply. Just stumbled across this website and think I may be visiting it quite often.. Thank you

By: sarah

sarah — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 16:51:36 +0000

Feeling alot better today, had a real good read of this site, brilliant stuff. i had a simular situation as my father died 2 months after my ex left, we where togther 16 years and he didnt even come to see me after my father died, but 18 months later, things are looking up, i know some days are good some days. if anyone wants to chat. im on sarah.hornett@hotmail.com

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 00:24:09 +0000

Hi all, i still dont seem to be able to come to terms with it all? dont feel that much better after 18months, we were togther for 16 years. any advice?

By: Louise

Louise — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 00:20:46 +0000

Hi, I got dumped nearly 3 weeks ago after 2 years, the problem was I knew he didn’t love me but stupidly held on hoping he might change. I changed my whole routine and lifestyle to make him happy because he was terribly jealous and overwhelmingly loving and attentive in the first 9 months so I was hooked. I loved him so deeply and got very depressed when he started going cold towards me, as soon as I made my feelings clear he backed off and then it just got worse, something really horrible happened which I cant mention but he left me with no conscience and I took him back cause I was BLIND. He was a good practical boyfriend taking me to different places, mostly his choice tho but emotionally he wasn’t there, I call him easter egg, nice and sweet on the outside but hollow and empty on the inside. I realize even tho I feel broken and extremely low he has done me a service you cant be happy with someone who doesn’t love you because it will only dent your self worth and make you ill. I hope you can all find the strength to move forward, its a long road but you have to walk it, good luck.x

By: sarah

sarah — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 10:46:18 +0000

my ex got up one day and left never to return, we where married 16 years. he told me i never want children, next thing i know he is with some woman who has 3 children now he is having another one with her !! i cant tell you the hurt i feel, now 37 no family, no husband, only few friends who i dont want to keep on to. its a hard life, my only comfort is hopefully what goes around comes around and i will find happyness again.

By: heartshock

heartshock — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 23:37:55 +0000

I still love my ex. As much as we been thru my heart says its nt enough to give up on us and all I want eveyday is for us to work it out . He says things that bfs would say to me online indicating that he still loves me but whenever I suggest we try again he shoots me down. I feel like he says enough to keep me hanging on and uses this on going hurt thing. He is like chatting to two individuals. One moment loving an the next horrible implying that I will on easily or I should go party and hook up with other men. He told me that today an I said becareful what u wish for. If a man u love can hurt u wat harm can a man that doesn’t do. He stopped talking to me and deleted me from his chat contacts. All I want is stop missing him and wishing he’ll come back to me. I don’t know how to let go and I dnt know how to make myself want to

By: macie

macie — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 19:27:46 +0000

my boyfriend left me two years ago for another woman completely out of the blue. i was devestated. we have a child which makes it alot harder for me to get over. in the two years hes had two relationships but everytime his relationships are rocky he keeps coming home to me saying hes sorry and he still loves me i believe him but then he goes back to his other woman leaving me heartbroken all over again and his child confused!!! i know hes bad for me and clearly doesnt have any respect for me so why the hell cant i let go and move on???? i really want to stop loving him because its making my life a misery.

By: Lazypieman

Lazypieman — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 21:23:58 +0000

I cant imagine how hard it must be living in the same house as your ex and I think she is dealing with this situation the best way she knows how to as well, it must be very hard for you both. I think the best thing you can do is be around your friends and family, speak to them and see if they would mind you staying round theirs for a while until you have sorted this situation, if you can try and get out of each others hair so that you can both grieve your relationship without each other being around, even a cheap hotel for a few nights might save your sanity. I know what you mean about ending it all as i have been their myself but beleive me its not worth it, things will change, even though it is hard to see at the moment you will get over this, i promise. Speak to your friends and family they will help you, or if you want to speak to someone confidentially the Samiritans are really good to turn too and chat through your problems, there number is 08457 90 90 90. Good luck, it may not seem like it now but things will start to look up and you WILL!! be happy again. Mike

By: bully

bully — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 13:06:26 +0000

My wife and I divorced 3months ago,we still share the same house
Waiting for it to be sold,she goes out,comes late at night,goes away
On weekends,and I can’t move on,all I can think of is her,and what she is doing
It is killing me,I can’t take it,I feel like ending my life,I prayed
So often,asking god to help me get over this,its still feels the same
I don’t know what to do

By: jayne

jayne — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 11:02:52 +0000

this is a really good website, thanks for the advice.
I have had 22 years of marriage, survived 14 affairs that he had, but been a fool and kept taking him back.
we were supposed to be trying again recently untill i discovered he already had another girlfriend.
i know i have to work on myself now for my future happiness and that of my children.
it helps knowing that others have/are going through similar break-ups
and that you can survive a broken heart
take care everyone x