Comments on: How to deal with heartbreak http://www.over-it.co.uk Fri, 03 Feb 2012 00:41:07 +0000 hourly 1 By: angel http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1850 angel Fri, 03 Feb 2012 00:41:07 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1850 Thank God for the net. I now know I am not alone. There are others who have gone through this and I WILL SURVIVE! Though it really hurts! God does not give us more than we can bear; this too will pass. Thank God for the net. I now know I am not alone. There are others who have gone through this and I WILL SURVIVE! Though it really hurts!

God does not give us more than we can bear; this too will pass.

]]> By: Georgia http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1789 Georgia Tue, 31 Jan 2012 12:13:02 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1789 We were together 2 years, lived together a year. I'm utterly devastated and lost. I just want him back. I accepted who he was and the way he was. I adored him. I thought that by saying it was over he would pull his socks up and show more attention and affection. Now he's gone and won't even discuss coming back. It's been a week now and I can't stop crying. I have children, one is mentally disabled. He doesn't understand what I'm going through and I just can't keep the sadness hidden. We were together 2 years, lived together a year. I’m utterly devastated and lost. I just want him back. I accepted who he was and the way he was. I adored him. I thought that by saying it was over he would pull his socks up and show more attention and affection. Now he’s gone and won’t even discuss coming back. It’s been a week now and I can’t stop crying. I have children, one is mentally disabled. He doesn’t understand what I’m going through and I just can’t keep the sadness hidden.

]]> By: philip http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1747 philip Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:07:16 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1747 another thing that is really helping me to cope is exercise. another thing that is really helping me to cope is exercise.

]]> By: philip http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1746 philip Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:03:20 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1746 Just broke up with my girlfriend last week. Really struggling to cope with it. I think i´m still in denial and hope that we´ll get back together. I´m not as bad as I felt a few days ago though. It really does help talking to people. The most painful thing was the day we said goodbye to each other. We were both crying, knowing that it was the last time we´d be together as a couple. it was so awful. definitely the most painful thing I have ever experienced. the memory will haunt me for a long time. Just broke up with my girlfriend last week. Really struggling to cope with it. I think i´m still in denial and hope that we´ll get back together. I´m not as bad as I felt a few days ago though. It really does help talking to people. The most painful thing was the day we said goodbye to each other. We were both crying, knowing that it was the last time we´d be together as a couple. it was so awful. definitely the most painful thing I have ever experienced. the memory will haunt me for a long time.

]]> By: Belle http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1736 Belle Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:33:11 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1736 Its terrible to feel like this, my boyfriend just dumped me we were living together for almost 2 years, I would do anything for him, he was my world. But both of us had a bad temper and slowly it started consuming our relationship; but we still kept trying (well at least me) . Everyone would tell me to leave him he was a jerk with me anyways and not good enough for me, but I kept trying cuz I adored him. Today he told me he never loved but only liked me, after everything, if it wasnt for me he would still be living with his sister or mother and would have his own place, truck, etc if it wasnt me pushing him. He lied to me that he wanted to get married and have a family with me, and he bluntly stated that yes it was a lie. I feel awful and I just dont know how Im going to get over him, plus he left me on debt cuz he got alot of stuff under my name/credit & i dont have a job so idk how im going to keep up with my payments :( Its terrible to feel like this, my boyfriend just dumped me we were living together for almost 2 years, I would do anything for him, he was my world. But both of us had a bad temper and slowly it started consuming our relationship; but we still kept trying (well at least me) . Everyone would tell me to leave him he was a jerk with me anyways and not good enough for me, but I kept trying cuz I adored him. Today he told me he never loved but only liked me, after everything, if it wasnt for me he would still be living with his sister or mother and would have his own place, truck, etc if it wasnt me pushing him. He lied to me that he wanted to get married and have a family with me, and he bluntly stated that yes it was a lie. I feel awful and I just dont know how Im going to get over him, plus he left me on debt cuz he got alot of stuff under my name/credit & i dont have a job so idk how im going to keep up with my payments :(

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1331 Anonymous Thu, 22 Dec 2011 20:58:25 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1331 acheni waana move on acheni waana move on

]]> By: Jo http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1131 Jo Mon, 28 Nov 2011 17:44:06 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1131 18 months on and I still love my husband of 24 yrs with all my heart. I manage my emotions alot better now but I still love and am in love with him. I still hope he will come back to me. He is with someone else who is very clingy by all accounts. I know that he will come back one day but I have to get on with my life now and to the outside world I am but he is the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing I think of at night. 18 months on and I still love my husband of 24 yrs with all my heart. I manage my emotions alot better now but I still love and am in love with him. I still hope he will come back to me. He is with someone else who is very clingy by all accounts. I know that he will come back one day but I have to get on with my life now and to the outside world I am but he is the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing I think of at night.

]]> By: Lazypieman http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1090 Lazypieman Tue, 22 Nov 2011 22:37:55 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1090 Hi Luojie, Mike here the author of the site, I think you are completely correct, love never dies, especially when we lose those around us. And yes all those things to get over love and loss seem fickle and pointless, as you point out, at the time, a way to fill time until "the next" love comes along. But the things you love in life your passions, your interests, is what makes you, YOU. Personally I think and hope that it is possible to love more than once, I believe I have. When you fall from love, you fall hard, which is why it so much harder to get back up again, the hurt and pain is unbearable and I think this is the reason that we stop ourselves from loving again. Life is a precious gift and losing those around me has awoken me to that fact, I appreciate it so much more now and think that this was their final gift to me. I wish you well Luojie and hope that you find happiness and your faith again, please keep looking, it’s probably in the most unlikeliest of places : ) Hi Luojie, Mike here the author of the site, I think you are completely correct, love never dies, especially when we lose those around us. And yes all those things to get over love and loss seem fickle and pointless, as you point out, at the time, a way to fill time until “the next” love comes along. But the things you love in life your passions, your interests, is what makes you, YOU. Personally I think and hope that it is possible to love more than once, I believe I have. When you fall from love, you fall hard, which is why it so much harder to get back up again, the hurt and pain is unbearable and I think this is the reason that we stop ourselves from loving again. Life is a precious gift and losing those around me has awoken me to that fact, I appreciate it so much more now and think that this was their final gift to me. I wish you well Luojie and hope that you find happiness and your faith again, please keep looking, it’s probably in the most unlikeliest of places : )

]]> By: Luojie http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-1089 Luojie Tue, 22 Nov 2011 21:47:19 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-1089 Meaningless drivel: People talk about moving on, they say it's been over two months and they still feel bad. They say... Change your interests, find something new to occupy your time. Hey find someone else to take away the pain. Ye, why not,,, lets use them..! Let them know how it feels to be hurt. But I could never do that,,, what if they ended up feeling as bad as me? OK,,, so try just dating someone without getting serious ... Try a few new hobbies ... Well sure, I spent many years after losing her, writing freeware for the Internet, I also ran a website for charity. I even dated other women ... YES, I've done all that, and let me tell you what I realised, and it's real simple ... The love you read about that people managed to get over in a month, year or even two..! Never actually existed, that's right, it never even began. TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES..! I know, because ten years on, and many girlfriends later, I still hurt, I still love, I still need her. Just because you think you were in love, you simply experienced what many people go through. They find someone they can relate to, and they tell themselves its love. But in fact it's just settling for. How many marriages do you see that last 5, 10, or 15 years. That's because it was never love. The marriages you see still going 40 years on, with real affection and respect for each other are the real deal. TRUE LOVE never even fades, it continues for the living partner when one passes away. AND BELIEVE ME,,, BECAUSE I KNOW..! She had dreams, she had beauty and grace, so innocent in this world full of false promise, and what of my daughter barely able to stand, and yet striken from the world of light. In love, life took the P*ss out of me, it made me wait until later years, then gave me a dream I never wanted to awaken from. Then it killed our child, and then it did the same to her. Life went on to rob me of all my beliefs in God, in fortune, luck, and happiness, then finally the will to carry on. LOVE??? ... THEY DON'T KNOW THE MEANING...!!! I care nothing for life, I care nothing for them, they are an irrelevance to love, as I am an irrelevance to life..! Meaningless drivel:
People talk about moving on, they say it’s been over two months and they still feel bad.
They say…
Change your interests, find something new to occupy your time.
Hey find someone else to take away the pain. Ye, why not,,, lets use them..! Let them know how it feels to be hurt.
But I could never do that,,, what if they ended up feeling as bad as me?

OK,,, so try just dating someone without getting serious … Try a few new hobbies … Well sure, I spent many years after losing her, writing freeware for the Internet, I also ran a website for charity. I even dated other women … YES, I’ve done all that, and let me tell you what I realised, and it’s real simple … The love you read about that people managed to get over in a month, year or even two..! Never actually existed, that’s right, it never even began.

TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES..!

I know, because ten years on, and many girlfriends later, I still hurt, I still love, I still need her.
Just because you think you were in love, you simply experienced what many people go through. They find someone they can relate to, and they tell themselves its love. But in fact it’s just settling for.
How many marriages do you see that last 5, 10, or 15 years. That’s because it was never love. The marriages you see still going 40 years on, with real affection and respect for each other are the real deal.
TRUE LOVE never even fades, it continues for the living partner when one passes away. AND BELIEVE ME,,, BECAUSE I KNOW..!

She had dreams, she had beauty and grace, so innocent in this world full of false promise, and what of my daughter barely able to stand, and yet striken from the world of light.

In love, life took the P*ss out of me, it made me wait until later years, then gave me a dream I never wanted to awaken from. Then it killed our child, and then it did the same to her.

Life went on to rob me of all my beliefs in God, in fortune, luck, and happiness, then finally the will to carry on.
LOVE??? … THEY DON’T KNOW THE MEANING…!!!
I care nothing for life, I care nothing for them, they are an irrelevance to love, as I am an irrelevance to life..!

]]> By: Matoalias http://www.over-it.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-899 Matoalias Mon, 24 Oct 2011 01:53:32 +0000 http://www.over-it.co.uk/?page_id=8#comment-899 The person I love, I've known since I was 4. I can't get her out of my head. She protected me from everything, and everyone. I went to her for everything, and she came to me too. At the time of this writing I'm 18. I've been in love with her for 12 years. She also said she loved me when we were 13. Then school graduation came. We were forced to part. The last thing I said to her was 'Should something happen to me, Just know that I love you'. I've been depressed for months, but I try to keep a happy face around my family. My friends knew how I felt. It doesn't help that most of the songs on my computer, we recorded together. I'm sad yes, but do I regret falling in love? No. I have to say, I'd rather be sad and remember all those good times, than be happy and never experienced them. The person I love, I’ve known since I was 4. I can’t get her out of my head. She protected me from everything, and everyone. I went to her for everything, and she came to me too. At the time of this writing I’m 18. I’ve been in love with her for 12 years. She also said she loved me when we were 13. Then school graduation came. We were forced to part. The last thing I said to her was ‘Should something happen to me, Just know that I love you’. I’ve been depressed for months, but I try to keep a happy face around my family. My friends knew how I felt. It doesn’t help that most of the songs on my computer, we recorded together. I’m sad yes, but do I regret falling in love? No. I have to say, I’d rather be sad and remember all those good times, than be happy and never experienced them.

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