Comments on: Life after your Ex

By: philly

philly — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 12:32:36 +0000

My marriage of 8 years came tumbling down on me 2 months ago ,the worst part is he had done this before and against my instict warning me i continued for the sake of our two daughters.i now realise i could not have saved my marriage no matter how i tried.im hoping to go overseas and study pastry as soon as i can save enough money.being an african woman you are raised to abide by your husbands rules no matter how many swollen lips and blue eyes he gives you.i might feel lonely now but at least i am not under his fist and hear how useless i am.thank you for the website.

By: lesley

lesley — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:11:07 +0000

My relationship has been over for 7 weeks. He was, i think, playing an emotional game that backfired on him – he wanted us to lve together. he is very needy, and I knew i couldn’t be with him the whole time – we said at the beginning we would be committed – but keep our own homes. he has 2 small children, who are pretty screwed up between 2 warring parents – and his ex is frankly wierd. I did not want to be caught up intheir wars – or live with kids that are rude, have eating issues (from their mother). We had been together for 10 months and he texted me to tell me he was ending it – out of the blue and just before a holiday we had booked. Within 3 days he was texting saying he had made a mistake and couldn’t live without me, made a couple of suicide references, but would not meet to talk face to face. I cancelled our holiday – and he went off on one on his own “he needed to get away”! the last time he contacted me – he texted shortly afterwards asking ME not to contact him again as nothing would change. It hurts and I miss him, though deep down I know he is playing emotional games. I have not heard anything since – 3 weeks ago now – but I feel that things are unfinished, and jump everytime the phone rings. I am determined not to contact him – although I feel pretty bad today – it is the eve of our cancelled holiday.

By: Dessy

Dessy — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 12:20:31 +0000

Am going through a bad and rough time in my life. I got married some few years ago and my husband has to travel to better our lives like he claims. He’s living with a woman in his life just to get what he says would make it easier for him. I started another affair behind him just to ease the pain but my heart is now shartered as the boy friend treats me like i never existed and my husband is now gone saying that i was cheating on him. I just hope i can go through all this and come out of it still alife.

By: kim

kim — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 00:15:29 +0000

it was my ex who has actually gave me this site….although i was with him for only 3 years he was my soulmate and we have 2 babies together, he has left before but always came back this time was for good though as he has met someone else even though it hasnt even been a month yet, this website has helped me, and glad to see im not the only one who feels this way, i know my pain will never get any better but i will learn to live with the hurt. thanks

By: Jacqui

Jacqui — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 11:50:27 +0000

I have been extremely low after my husband of 17 years walked out on me and my 2 young sons. Like others on this web site i keep blaming myself for him going. I found out 3 months after he left that he had been seeing someone at work and had probally been doing so for ages. It has been some time since he left and perhaps i should be ‘moving on’ by now?. I keep reading the word ‘Forgiveness’ and how it will help. I know that he would like us to get along and possibly be friends but I know that this is what he wants, it would make him feel better and less guilty. Because of this I am cold and bitter when I speak to him. The stupid thing is that the only person hurt is me. He does not appear bothered at all.
I have taken comfort from this web site reading what others are/have gone through. Thanks.

By: Carole

Carole — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 08:15:20 +0000

Reading this has been just like reading my emotions if they could be printed. My husband of 14 years just walked out. Told me he wasnt happy and it wasnt me it was him. Then I got his phone bill. What a liar. He has now left and has admitted that he has someone else. I am still at the stage of thinking was it me. Could I have done something to prevent this happening. I am 56 so is not easy to get back into the whole social thing. Anyway. This site has been good to check that I am not alone in how I feel. Lets just hope that I can get over it like you did. XXXXXXX

By: Belinda Campbell

Belinda Campbell — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 21:46:59 +0000

Ok, I’m back…some time has passed, and I do still have tears, and I do still feel sad (especially since I saw my ex on Thursday but didn’t speak to him), but I am better than a few weeks ago…. I have booked a holiday (well two actually to take me to the end of the year), changed my gym from 01 Nov 10 onwards (for that ‘new’ feeling), noticed other guys noticing me Basically, I’ve been swimming a lot recently, and now starting to look much fitter I have been eating a lot of healthy food, not drinking much alchohol at all (just smoking far too many ciggies). But things are getting better… I even joined an internet dating site, but not sure about that. Have been chatting to someone who lives miles away!! Still, it’s nice to chat to him. Reading this again some weeks later, has encouraged me to leave another message, and I will be back again… hope it helps others….