Moving out
Break ups are bad enough, but when you live with that person it can all feel too much. Not only are you trying to juggle the emotional grief of the break up, but you also have to approach the practicalities of finding a new place to live, or even just stay for a short term while you sort your head out. This can feel so much worse if you’re the person in the relationship that’s not used to organising such things.
Break down the tasks
First thing to do is take a deep breath and break down the tasks at hand. By doing this the overall task does not seem so daunting. Make a list of all the things you need to organise
Evaluate your options
- Do you need to find somewhere to live quickly i.e. can you stay with friends or family until you can get back on your feet?
- Can you book a hotel room for a few nights to give yourself some time to think?
- Do you have friends that you can move in with, permanently?
- Can you rent a place, short/long term?
- Are you willing to house share?
If you’re lucky to have multiple options and are having trouble deciding which choice is right (sometime simple decisions seem insurmountable when you are emotionally and physically drained this is normal), make a pros and cons list to help your decision process
Avoid commitment
I would advise against committing to anything long term like buying a house or flat at this stage or getting a pet for company for example, as your life will go through many changes over the next few months as your goals, dreams and routines all change, sometimes unrecognisably. You are probably not in the best state of mind to make such a large decision about such a big commitment; you can always re-evaluate in a few months time. For now just concentrate on your recovery and keep your options open, an amazing opportunity may be just around the corner and by by not having any long term commitments you have more opportunity to explore new ideas and experiences.
Renting
A lot of people say that renting is dead money however it definitely has its advantages like not being responsible for house maintenance like the boiler breaking or the roof leaking.
It also gives you more flexibility with your own circumstances, you may find that you want to go travelling in 6 months or move to another location for work, renting is an easier way to achieve these things, especially in the current economic climate.
Organise
Once you have decided where to live you may want to start thinking about the following.
- Making a list of all your possessions and splitting your possessions with your partner
- What you will need to purchase after you have split everything, fridge, freezer, washing machine etc.
- Booking a removal van or hiring a van (and convincing your friends/family to help)
Sorting the bi
